If you’re going through a breakup, you’re not alone. Many people experience intense emotional pain after ending a relationship, and the journey of breakup recovery can feel overwhelming. In fact, your feelings are completely normal—whether it’s the ache in your chest, constant thoughts about your ex, or feelings of confusion and sadness.
Journal Entry about my Breakup Recovery …
“I’m hurting. The pain in my chest won’t ease. I can’t stop thinking about her—the things she loved, the jokes we shared. The pain grips my chest, and it feels like I can’t go even a few seconds without thinking of her. Our relationship wasn’t easy, and it often hurt more than it felt good. Our differences were too much. It reminds me of growing up—loving my family but knowing it was time to move on. But now it’s so much more complicated, and the pain feels deeper. Will I find love again, even if this wasn’t right? Why do I miss her so much?”
If this could be your journal, the struggle is real and the following are just a few tips to work through your breakup
5 ideas to work through a breakup
1. Acknowledge the Pain
Breakups represent real loss, so it’s okay and normal to grieve. Recognize your feelings and give yourself permission to experience the pain.
2. Practice Deep Belly Breathing
When we are tense, sad, or anxious, our breathing becomes shallow. Try deep breaths from your belly to help calm your nervous system and reduce emotional intensity.
3. Plan Mind Distractions
If thoughts of your ex dominate your mind, create a list of activities to focus on. Engage in hobbies, exercise, or spend time with friends to shift your attention and ease your mind.
4. Write or Record a Journal
It’s normal for your mind to wander back to your ex despite distractions. Writing or recording a journal allows you to process your thoughts and emotions constructively, providing an outlet for your feelings.
5. Speak to a Therapist
Therapists don’t fix problems but offer a nonjudgmental ear and guidance. Intentional work with a therapist can help you set goals, process emotions, and celebrate progress on your journey forward.
Moving on from a breakup is a personal journey that requires patience and self-compassion. Using these strategies can provide structure and support through the difficult emotions. Remember, healing is possible and you are not alone.
